The misused term... and the itch to reword it...!!

Hey... any guesses for the term that i am talking about... well it would be something which is most over-rated word in daily life... but then i also think that some of you will not agree with me on this and might turn back to me and say 'Blasphemy'... then again if i would have worried about the accusation, then i would not be writing about it... isn't it..?? 

Haanji, so i am talking about the word is a Common Noun which by definition is "One who entertains for another person such sentiments of esteem,

 respect, and affection that he seeks his society and welfare; a well-wisher"... uhh.. this is not straight enough and not helping... wait i ll another definition which just to mention is taken from Webster's - here it goes... "a person you know well and regard with affection and trust" or vice versa... are u getting the drift or do i still have to elaborate... let's skip it and i ll tell u that the word/point in discussion is Friend aka buddy/ pal/ chum/ and so on (the Common Noun)... 

Ideal situation would be that the person covered under this Common Noun should be the one who fulfills the aspects covered by the definition... but do we in regular circumstances find these people or we ignorantly use this term for anybody and everybody...?? This question has been raised in my mind many a times in the past and i have always been incapable of justifying it... because there are surely lots of people that i know and they are definitely not my friends (by the definitions given above)... also i wonder if it is justifiable that those few people that i can count on my fingertips, who i will rely at any given point in time can just merely be called friends (who are also being addressed for the rest of the acquaintances..) Not Fair...!!

Honestly tell me.. can you say all the people in your "Friend Lists"of Facebook, Orkut or any other Social Networking Sites are your friends (by the definition again...)... I will say only the top 10, max 15 people that you speak to on a regular basis can still be wrapped in the Friends Package... the rest my "Friends" are just the acquaintances in various degrees urging to get closer (or trying to get away)...  

On this friendly note, take care my dearies... :)

Cheers...!!

- A

Event Organiser's Big Event...

This "Shaadi Season" it seems all the guys that i know are getting married and moving on to next stage of wonderment... and it has started off with my very good school friend Ravindra (aka Ravin) who was really dying to get married since last 5 years, finally managed to do that on this 23rd November and it was really great to attend the wedding as i too was waiting for this happy moment...  

also got to know that a few friends from school were coming to the wedding, so it became a get-together of old acquaintances there... and we all reached just in time to dance around the Dhol and regular band-baja music... and found the Dulha there, dressed in Sherwani, riding a horse (rather a mare..) looking his best and sometimes giving embarrassed smiles... though made a quite dashing Dulha at that... :) here's a peak at him...

Dulha did his best to control his urges to instruct people around as the Organizer of the Event (that's what he is by profession).. so there were many instances where his professional side took the better of him and he started to inspect and order on the way... :D which made me want to say - now just relax and enjoy your own event...

And as any Event Organizer would want his spectators to experience something different apart from the beautiful pandaal, a surprise element was waiting there in form of few girls coming suddenly on stage wearing peacock dresses and dancing.... some thought there was going to be some kind of performance, some went numb in amazement... then, tadaaaaaa....... there was the bride to be... Mekhla...

She looked stunning (as you know every bride does on her big day)... dressed in a traditional lehenga-choli and a brilliant 5000W smile... just perfect...!!

i met Mekhla a few months back while driving down to jaipur, though we had spoken over the phone few times in the last 2 years, discussing really interesting subjects like career, TSM, work etc... :) so i was saying... when i met her, i could see and understand why Ravin is so head over heals crazy about the girl... (touchwood..!!).. make honest persons out of each other...!!

All the very best to you guys... wish you a blissful married life ahead... Dudho nahao pooto phalo... :D

and your party is still due........ don't forget... :)

Cheers..!!!

Ek Naukri Ka Sawaal Hai Baba...

Really... tell me how many of you relate to this... agar ye naukri nahi hoti to saari pareshaniyan, dukh, dard, pratdnayein, chintayein hi khatm ho jaati... nahi.?? par haan usi k saath saath saari tamannayein, vilasitayein, khushiyan bhi... hmm... which means naukri ek aisa laddoo hai jise khaya bhi na jaaye or chhoda bhi na jaaye... errrr... i think this simile is generally used in some other perspective... :) hehe... thoda mix up ho gaya... i think i should start over... Better would be to say naukri ek aisa puppy hai, jo shuruaat mein jab milta hai to bas man ko bha jata hai or usey kabhi na chhodne ka man karta hai, its so perfect that you never actually want to leave it alone... but then give it sometime then you start realizing that how much you need to take care of it... how much time you need to spend with it... you ll have to forget your preoccupations for it... it ll be hard to manage your hobbies with it around... it starts growing around you and growing on you too... achcha bahut huye ye similes... i know i can't stretch it further...

the point is, however hard that you try to like your job but in sometime you start realizing that it is not you who has the power over your job, its the other way round... its almost like the situation when u r in the back seat with that same cute little puppy in the driver's seat with no sense of what a steering wheel does, no long legs to reach to those very efficient brakes, the machine in highest gear and taking you downhill into a crevice... ufff... this is actually sounding scary once you start imagining this...

further analysis says this occurrence of the said feeling is due to some reasons (which are actually the few that i have been able to pin down) ... so those are:

• the most important one: its your JOB...: now hold on, what does this mean... of course it is my job... what else were we talking about till now... and why this has to be the reason for the same question....um.. uhh.. well... wait, wait, wait... hold those reins of your beautiful beasts of thoughts... let me finish the whole sentence... i meant "its your job and not your Work"... now do you get the difference... now is it the answer for the question in the beginning... hmmm... yep, i know, now it does explain a bit... but to further extrapolate to those who like to shred any reason to pieces... here i ll use an example, its actually very simple: your 'work' changes to a 'job' when instead of saying 'i have to do this' you start saying 'i should do this now'... Work is something you love doing and job is simply a task... so when this perspective changes, i think you know its time to add some spice to your work life and take control instead of giving in to the situation which ll drag you down to something you won't like to imagine...
• you are also losing your control when you start realizing you have nothing to do... which mainly includes your hobbies... take a grip, take out time for yourself... coz you know you are happy doing stuff all the time... do whatever you like to do... apart from sleeping i wud rather suggest... but just do it... it will surely freshen up the perspective...
• and in the end, also be thankful whatever you have been able to achieve and be thoughtful of what all you would like to achieve...

so here in the end the question that we started off with changes a bit and becomes "kya naukri ek sawaal hai...?" ya fir hum khud hi usey ek sawaal bana dete hain...?

ooooooh the deep thought... carry on guys... its all for the good...

Cheers...!!

The Roller Coaster Ride...!!

Don't blame me darling for not writing in soon enough... but as u can see it was all a roller coaster ride in the past one year... i know, i know this is really a very long time to not write in and keep you updated with the happenings.. but as u see that in my previous posts i was at the edge of something good and that you saw how i was on a high with good things around... but as you know babes that the sentence "this too shall pass away" holds so true in life... so on the same track record that "happiness or the so-called good times" - all flew away...

it is really a long time that i have visited my blog, so i just went through what i had earlier mentioned and found how happy i was at that point in time and it really makes me feel good today because all that i had at that time, i don't have any more... and right now i am again in that heavy mood where i can definitely, for sure say that there is a huge void inside me - in every way i can say... its both personal and professional... u ll notice that my "every way" is limited to my personal and professional life only... but now that i am pointing this out i am also wondering whether there any other kinds of life too in this practical materialistic world...!!

but whatever said and done the few decisions that i had to take at the time where i needed to be sure about what was happening with me and around me, i did the right thing... well that is what i thought and went ahead with that... and that hurt a lot... it was definitely the down swing of the roller coaster ride... Oh it was hard... i can't even tell you how much... but the scorpio strength of justice took me forward and i did it and came out as a winner (sort of, now i can use this term - after almost an year - earlier i was not sure if i was the winner or not)... as it is winner or loser is not the question here... the question was - what was the right thing... the effort was - to finally decide and break it all... but there was a relief in that break too... and as all the breakings, this one also hurt, left a scar for some time... and then it was over...

personal area - sort of settled at one end... leaving a void at that time... now recuperated... then again, few other things, now, at the work place changed... and the job that i liked so much... which revived me totally, which gave me power to believe that i was doing a great job, that i was progressing somewhere, which was like an internal discovery... really took a U-turn... and now i am like that person who wishes to do good work but has no motivation left to do it... which is killing me as i am not the person who does not want to work and i am right now also not the person who will kill someone for this job... Shucks! this is still the part of that downward roller coaster ride...

so again there is that loathing time that has come where i am not liking anything around me... and wishing hard to change the situation around... i am realizing this is the same feeling like the jungle that i had mentioned in one of previous blogs, from the far off, where there is only thick dense forest where i am not able to locate the path ahead... and i still have sometime to reach closer to the forest and find a little narrow way out which will make me escape this situation...

with some hope inside me i am traversing the path, wondering at the mysteries that are at present hidden from the naked eye... i yet have to cross this yet unlighted path and to reach the destination which will be enlightening enough, as always... the great learning experience...!! though to tell you that this waiting is really painful and hard, won't be a lie... but the ultimate destination is the thing to wait for... indeed!!

so again hoping for the best ahead... and hoping to write sooner... which i ll... take care...

Cheers...!!